“Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain – your life will never be the same.” – Catherine Jones
Becoming a mother is one of the most wonderful moments of a woman’s life. No one is really ready to become a mother. I am talking about first time moms here, mainly. I had a rough pregnancy, both from health and emotional point of view. Breaking marriage, baby diagnosed with brain issues before birth, severe vomiting all through the eight months I was pregnant, emergency C-section etc. My point is, even if you do not have any issues still you can never say that you are prepared. Here are seven things I wish I knew before becoming a mother.
You might never give birth on your due date
Ladies, due date is just to give you an idea around which your baby will be born. There is only 1 in 30 pregnancies where the baby takes birth on the exact due date. You can go into labour earlier and you can go over your due date as well. Did you know the longest pregnancy ever was 375 days instead of the normal 280 days!
You can’t control your birth experience
We plan everything before our baby’s birth. We have the nursery done, outfits bought and washed, toys picked out, the place where we’d like to give birth picked out but everything could not always go as planned. You might have planned and pictured a vaginal birth and end up having a Caesarean section. Don’t stress over it. After either of them you’ll have the greatest prize of all. So, does it really matter how you give birth? Get that epidural girl; it doesn’t make you any less of a mother. And it doesn’t affect your health in any way. I’m telling this from my personal experience.
You’d have never known love before
You thought you fell in love with the perfect partner and your life is the best it could be. Nothing could make it better. Well, you are in for a surprise. You might have the best job, the best partner, the best home and family but when you have a baby, you’d find a love that you’ve never imagined. A bond that is not even comparable. You’d take a bullet for your tiny human, literally, without even thinking.
You’d forget fashion for comfort
I used to love wearing the latest trends. Skin hugging clothes and the latest heels. And now my Minnie-me is 2 years and 5 months and I’ve not touched a pair of heels since. Last week, I dared myself and bought a pair of wedge sandals from H & M. They are not exactly heels but give a girl some credit for trying. You’d love to wear huge t-shirts and leggings, anything that makes feeding and running behind a toddler easy. And don’t forget top knot buns!
First Time Moms, you must have heard about cluster feeding. It is as real as the stars in the sky. Your baby will be attached to you like glue. But you’ll get through it. You might find it very hard to manage with no sleep but you’ll be just fine. It passes and your baby needs you. You are the only one the baby knows and this is the best time when you bond will grow.
Breastfeeding isn’t what you think it is
Most women find breastfeeding easy and natural but this is not the case for everyone. I had a hard time with breastfeeding. My daughter was in NICU for 10 days. The hospital staff didn’t let me feed her and I knew no better. Had I known, I would have insisted. And so my supply decreased. I had no choice but to supplement with formula. So if you get to feed your baby, please do it and try as hard as you can. If for some reason you can’t, don’t beat yourself over it. Do what is best for your baby. A well fed baby is a happy baby.
Guilt is real
You feel guilty almost 100 times a day. For working, for not spending enough time with your baby, for not giving a little treat to your toddler, for not choosing the on-trend playschool and the list goes on. Your child is not going to remember the expensive toy you bought or the million activities you did with them. They are just going to remember that you were there for them.
Just remember, being a mother is going to change you and you’d never trade it for anything else!
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